1 to 10 Scale

I've been a little behind in blogging, so spent a little time today reposting things I had posted previously on Koru Ceremony Facebook page but didn't have time to add here until today.  

The 1 to 10 scaleThe next time you and your partner disagree about something, ask each other, "How strongly do you feel on a scale of 1 to 10, with 10 being the strongest?"

It's a quick way to communicate your position on the issue.

If you're a 2 and your partner is a 9, then it's not worth arguing about. Your core needs are not being threatened. Accept their position and move on. 

If you're a 9 and your partner is a 9, then it's worth exploring further. Seek to understand each other's position by asking open-ended questions. 

Use the compromise ovals to come up with a temporary solution if you get stuck. 

Additional reading:

• 4 Ways to Stay Connected During Life Transitions
• Reaching a Compromise: The Second Part of the State of the Union Meeting
• There Are Two Views to Every Conflict and Both Are Valid