I received a call on Monday that Rebecca and Ralph wanted to get married in the Chapel at Grace Episcopal Church on the following Friday morning. Rev. Amy did an outstanding job of creating a beautiful ceremony in such a short notice for this very sweet couple.
(Why such a short notice? It was important to Rebecca that she get married at Grace because her grandparents had been married at Grace and she remembered growing up attending Grace in the summers with her mother. Also, August 24 was the anniversary of Rebecca and Ralph's first date two years ago.)
UPDATE: I received this really wonderful review from Liza that she posted on Wedding Wire:
"Pat is incredible! She made an effort to get to know me and my husband and was flexible, easy to work with, and genuine. Our ceremony was exactly what we wanted it to be and it was an absolute pleasure to have Pat as our officiant."
I officiated a wedding today in Baraboo at a brand new wedding venue that just opened this year called Vennebu Hill. The venue is beautiful and having the ceremony outside between two large, mature trees and its stunning view was breathtaking.
Sarah Sarbacker, from Cherry Blossom Events, was their wedding coordinator. I am always delighted when I have the chance to work with her and Andrea VandeBerg. They are such incredibly talented and creative women and I was blown away by today’s gorgeous décor.
But what made this wedding so memorable was the couple themselves. Eric and Liza were so completely present in the moment throughout the entire ceremony. Seeing the look of love in their eyes once again reminded me of what an honor and a privilege it is to be a part of one of the best days of these amazing couple’s lives. I love every wedding that I officiate but today’s wedding was extremely special and one I will remember.
An outdoor wedding at the Villa Buonincontro, Fort Atkinson, was the setting for Whitney and Nelson's special day. They were blessed with sunshine from above, expressions of love for each other, and support from family and friends. Thank you to the both of them for choosing me to officiate the ceremony. It was beautiful! ~Sarah
Photography by: Tonhya Kae Photography
I agree. If you adopt these relationship 9 qualities your and your partner will more likely live happily ever after.
Experts Say Adopting These 9 Relationship Qualities Can Make Your Marriage More Successful
By Jenn Sinrich
Everyone who says "I do" hopes that those two words sustain a lifetime. But, as any relationship expert or person who's been married even a few years will tell you, it takes a great deal of effort, commitment, support, patience, and dedication in order for a marriage (or relationship of any kind) to thrive. That means that if you want your relationship to continue thriving, you need to put in some work. That's why we asked the experts to share a list of qualities that are necessary for marital success. If you're already engaged or married, the odds are good that you and your significant other are already doing these things, but if you're not, you should consider adopting these good relationship qualities now.
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You Communicate Effectively
Every couple knows that communication is an essential factor in keeping your marriage strong, but what exactly does good communication entail? "Real communication is not just waiting for the other person to stop talking so you can have your turn," says Tammy Nelson, a relationship therapist and author. "It means talking about your feelings and then working to understand what your partner is trying to say." One way she recommends practicing communication is to "mirror" your partner when they have something important to say. "Statements like, 'What I hear you saying….' and then repeating back to them what you heard can save you both from a lifetime of being misunderstood," she adds.
You Share the Same Life Goals
You don't have to pursue the same career or even work in the same city, but if the two of you share life goals—like whether or not to have children and where to settle down—marriage will be more blissful and less of an uphill battle. "Love is grand, but compatibility is essential to make a marriage last," says April Masini, a relationship and etiquette expert. "When couples have chemistry but no compatibility, the romance fizzles." You don't have to agree on everything, but you do have to be compatible enough on enough fronts, she adds.
There's a Focus on "We" Instead of "Me"
Studies show that couples who refer to themselves as "we" and "us" more often than "I" and "me" have better in long-term partnerships, says Nelson. "Additionally, partners who think in terms of being in a couple are more likely to stay together and are happier." Think about the language you use when referring to you and your partner. Do you say, "We want to do X, Y, or Z for dinner," or "I want to do X, Y, and Z for dinner?" Talking to other people will help cement your bond, especially when your partner hears you talk about your relationship in that way, adds Nelson.
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You Know How to Have Fun Together
Remember this: The couple who plays together stays together. Nelson urges the importance of finding ways to hang out that are fun. "Create things that you and your partner can do that are physical—ride bicycles or hike local parks together, try a new yoga class, meditate to an app, visit a local museum, or explore wine country in your state," she says. "The more fun activities you share, the more you will feel like being together is fun, and the more you hang together, the less bored you will be over time (and yes, that is the risk)."
You Both Have a High Self-Esteem
Perhaps when you first met one or both of you was less confident than you are today, but feeling good in your own skin is an important quality to bring to the table in your relationship. "If you or your partner have low self-esteem, you're going to be spending a lot of energy compensating for that loss, which is exhausting," Masini says. "That's why partners who both have healthy self-esteem tend to have a much easier and happier time as a couple in the long term."
You Have a Mutual Respect for One Another
Respect is one of the most important qualities in any relationship, especially romantic ones. "Respect is the glue that makes things work in a relationship," says Masini. "When one or both of you lose respect for the other, the relationship crumbles, but when you respect your partner, along with their decisions and behavior, there's ease, admiration and trust as derivative bonuses!" If you're having a hard time feeling that level of respect for your partner, sit down and discuss your expectations. Communicating and grasping an understanding where each of you is coming can help.
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Even if you or your partner has a Type A, controlling personality, you have to be willing to compromise and meet the other partner in the middle. "If one person gets their way all the time, the other person is going to feel badly about themselves, about their spouse, and about their marriage," says Masini. "Flexibility is a much easier way to have a successful relationship that lasts the long term." Being open goes a long way towards happiness with someone else.
You Show Appreciation
When you've been together for a while, it can be easy to take little things you once appreciated for granted—whether it's the fact that he makes the bed each morning or that she makes your lunch for work each day. But it's the small ways we show appreciation for our loved ones that really add up. "Couples who make a point to show appreciation for each other are just nicer. It doesn't mean they don't have conflict, but they make up for conflict by creating opportunities to connect," says Masini. "All small appreciations can reduce the natural frustrations that come up with being in a relationship."
You Have a Good Sex Life
Research shows that sex plays an important role in a happy marriage. But, as Nelson notes, the misunderstanding many people have about sex and marriage is that it happens naturally when you communicate. "It's actually the other way around—when you work on your physical connection, everything else will fall into place." In other words, a good sex life doesn't happen on its own. "You have to dedicate time and practice to it, just like anything else that you want to be good at or find worthwhile," she adds.
One of my favorite photographers to work with is Karly Jo Photography. We did a wedding together in April for Katie and Robert at the Park Hotel and she completely knocked it out of the park with her photography. I couldn't have described this day any better than she did on her blog.
"What a amazing way to kick off the 2018 wedding season! Robert and Katie were the sweetest and their families were so filled with joy as these two said ‘i do’ in a classic downtown Madison ceremony at The Park Hotel.
I had so many favorite moments from the day. The weather was perfect and we were all glad there wasn’t any snow! The expression on Roberts face when he first saw Katie in her dress was priceless. Sometimes those first look moments really do steal the show. Katie & Robert made sure to fill the day with time to truly enjoy the company of their friends and family, I loved just hanging around downtown as they soaked up the day. Katie’s father maybe have stole the show that evening with his epic wedding ‘non-toast’ to the couple. Dad’s are the best!"
Read Katie and Robert's comments and see more photos by clicking on Karly Jo's blog.
Catching up on previous weddings... Here are the fabulous photos by Claire Staley Photography from Stephanie and Tony's winter wedding last February at the Wilderness Lodge in the WI Dells. Stephanie and Tony were such a FUN couple to work with. Wishing them all the best in their new life together as husband and wife.
Today I married German and Joy at the Rotary Botanical Gardens in Janesville, WI. The Wellness Garden that German and Joy chose for their ceremony was spectacular! This was a brand new garden that had just been dedicated the previous month and they were the first couple to use it for a wedding. I was so impressed and consider it one of the prettiest gardens for an outdoor wedding. I also had the delight of marrying a fantastic couple. We did all our planning for the ceremony via phone calls and emails since they live in Los Angeles. But when I met them for the first time at the rehearsal it felt like we already knew one another. Wishing them all the best in their years ahead as husband and wife.
It was a complete delight to have the chance to work with and marry Jake and Lauren at the Madison Museum of Contemporary Art last weekend. This couple took our pre-marital workshop last spring. They wanted their marriage to start off on the right footing so wanted to make sure they had the tools to do so.
Here is a line from a recent email they sent me right after their wedding day:
Thank you!! It was such a beautiful day and we are so grateful to have had the opportunity to meet and work with you.
I really enjoyed working with Ashley and Sal. Such a sweet couple and such a nice review they wrote for Koru Ceremony LLC on both Wedding Wire and The Knot.
Pat was an amazing person to work with. She was so organized and helped us perfectly customize our wedding ceremony. She always answered emails promptly and gave us tons of packets about how to change your last name, religious wedding quotes, romantic verses, recommended vendors, recommended songs, etc. I would highly recommend Koru Ceremony LLC as a wedding officiant.
Today I married German and Joy at the Rotary Botanical Gardens in Janesville, WI. The Wellness Garden that German and Joy chose for their ceremony was spectacular! This was a brand new garden that had just been dedicated the previous month and this couple was the first to use it for a wedding. I was so impressed and consider it one of the prettiest gardens for an outdoor wedding. I also had the delight of marrying a fantastic couple. We did all our planning via phone calls and emails since they live in Los Angeles. But when I met them for the first time at the rehearsal it felt like we had already met. Wishing them all the best in their years ahead as husband and wife.
UPDATE: Katie wrote this very kind and heartfelt review for me on The Knot:
"We are so happy we chose Pat to officiate our wedding ceremony this past July! From our very first meeting, we knew she was the perfect fit! She listened and truly cared to find out about us, our vision for our day and our love story. Pat is organized, detailed and so very kind. She provided us with beautiful words to choose from to create our perfect ceremony and guided us along the way. She attended our rehearsal and did a fantastic job delivering the heartfelt ceremony we were hoping for! You cannot go wrong with Pat! Thanks for everything!"
I received the sweetest thank you note from Katie and Allen. I officiated their wedding at Blackhawk Country Club in July. Their note read:
"Dear Pat, We just wanted to thank you for the wonderful job you did officiating our wedding! You are so easy to work with and we so enjoyed our time with you! Thank you for helping our day run so smoothly and for all your hard work up to and throughout the ceremony."
I also wanted to share their spectacular flower hoop they had for their wedding ceremony. Also, the view was pretty spectacular as well!
Thank you Emili and Tyler for writing this very kind review for Koru Ceremony on both The Knot and Wedding Wire. It was so much fun to officate your ceremony on your parent's farm.
"Pat worked through multiple drafts of our wedding ceremony with us to make sure that what was said on our day was exactly to our specifications. She was patient and let us make decisions based on our personal beliefs instead of pushing her opinions on us; with that said, she did give us advice on what typically works best in a wedding ceremony. Both sets of parents were impressed with how smoothly Pat ran the rehearsal, including tips on how to stand, hold your hands (for the guys), and how to walk down the aisle. We would highly recommend working with Pat!"
Photo by Hatch Foto
Darcy and Justin were married at Celebrations on the River in LaCrosse, WI, on August 4, 2018. They both shared their vows of love for each other, exchanged rings and became husband and wife amongst cherished family and friends. It was a beautiful setting for this special occasion. I send my sincerest appreciation to them both for choosing me as their officiant. ~Sarah Harrison
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