I love thes photos by Errin Hiltbrand Photography at Kelli and Alex's wedding at the Bridal Barn and Gardens in Mt. Horeb. So much fun to be a part of this wedding since I had also married Alex's sister two years ago. Kelli and Alex were just as wonderful to work with.
Thank you Kelli and Alex for writing such a nice review for me on both The Knot and Wedding Wire:
We worked with Pat for our wedding this July (2017) and loved her! We had worked with her previously on another family member's wedding and had such a great experience with her that we knew we wanted her for our wedding too. From the start, Pat was great about presenting options, helping us design the type of ceremony we were looking for, and customizing the ceremony to our requests and us. She put us at ease with all the hoops to jump through with the license and made it very easy to follow. Pat joined us for the rehearsal and we're so glad we did it. She helped the wedding party and the families feel less nervous about the proceedings of the ceremony and she was great at directing folks on what to do and when to do it. The wedding ceremony went off without a hitch (except for us getting hitched :)) and Pat was instrumental in that!
Rev. Sarah Harrison had the pleasure of marrying Doug and Kristin last fall at the Madison Children's Museum. Just looking at their faces you can see what a fun and deeply in love couple this is. Thank you Rômulo Morishita Ueda at Ueda Photography for sharing these outstanding photos with us. You did an amazing job of capturing the fun, laughter, excitement, joy, and love of this adorable couple's wedding.
I was just about to post a blog about a different wedding but wanted to make sure I had the correct Facebook link for Ueda Photography and came upon this wedding we work together previously. Romulo is such an amazing photographer and is so good at capturing a couple's personality and the love in their eyes on such an important day of their lives. I love working with him!
And I also want to give a shout out to Badger Bus and Badger Coaches. This is another amazing vendor. The trolley is a fabulous way to transport your wedding party and/or guests (in this case from Pres House where they had their ceremony to their reception venue). So much fun! You can see it on Dan and Marie's face.
I've been a little behind in blogging, so spent a little time today reposting things I had posted previously on Koru Ceremony Facebook page but didn't have time to add here until today.
The 1 to 10 scaleThe next time you and your partner disagree about something, ask each other, "How strongly do you feel on a scale of 1 to 10, with 10 being the strongest?"
It's a quick way to communicate your position on the issue.
If you're a 2 and your partner is a 9, then it's not worth arguing about. Your core needs are not being threatened. Accept their position and move on.
If you're a 9 and your partner is a 9, then it's worth exploring further. Seek to understand each other's position by asking open-ended questions.
Use the compromise ovals to come up with a temporary solution if you get stuck.
Thank you so much Samantha and Joe for taking the time to write such a detailed, beautiful, and heartfelt review for me on Wedding Wire. I am very grateful. It was really wonderful working with the two of you. I was honored to be a part of your wedding day and wish you all the best in the years ahead as husband and wife. May your life together with filled with an abundance of happiness and joy.
Where do we begin? Pat Werk of Koru Ceremony was everything we could have hoped for and so so so so much more. We knew we needed an officiant as we were getting married outside of the church but we had no idea where to begin. So we began our google, knot, and wedding wire searching and stumbled upon Koru Ceremony. We didn’t know what we were looking for but we knew when we talked with Pat that she was it. Koru Ceremony works with you to customize you ceremony from start to finish. Trust me there are many details you aren’t even thinking about yet! Pat lives more than an hour away from us but happily met us in the middle to get to know one another. We sat down and had a “consultation” prior to booking and after about 30 seconds of talking with Pat my husband and I both knew she was going to be a perfect fit. She is able to customize your ceremony from no religion to a completely religious ceremony (down to religious garb, etc.). She provides you with an intimidating amount of documents, research, and helpful tools — it seems like a lot of stuff when you are trying to customize your ceremony but after reading through all the things she had put together we were set — we didn’t need to look anywhere else in order to assemble our ceremony — she had it all. We met once again about a month prior to our wedding to tie-up any loose ends and do a run-through of the ceremony script. Then Pat joined us at our rehearsal to do a live walk-through with our parents and wedding party — it is not a requirement but I would highly highly recommend you include her at your ceremony — it made the day of a whole lot smoother (everyone knew her, everyone knew where they needed to be and when, etc). After the rehearsal we said our goodbyes until tomorrow. On the wedding day she made the time to come see me in the bridal suite to make sure I was comfortable and to let me know she was all set (she did the same with my husband) — it was reassuring to see her once before I saw her at the altar.
Photos by Kat from Ellagraph Studios. For more photos from this gorgeous wedding, check out this link.
Love this photo of Josh and Lauren and their adorable ring bearer at their wedding last weekend at The Ridge Hotel in Lake Geneva. It was so wonderful to be a part of their fabulous and memorable wedding day!
A review that Lauren wrote on Wedding Wire:
I love how easy it was to make a unique ceremony perfect for our personalities and love story. Pat was amazing to work with and helped make our day exactly what we wanted. Highly recommended!
It is always a delight and an honor to baptize the children of former wedding couples. I married Todd and Lindsay almost 2 years ago. So it was fun to get a chance to see them again and celebrate another milestone in their lives.
Elly and Nate were married on July 1, 2017, in Lancaster, WI, surrounded by their close family and friends with the sun shining upon them and a strong wind singing their praises. They are truly a remarkable couple filled with love and respect for each other. It was an honor to play a part in their commitment to each other as the Wedding Officiant from Koru Ceremony: Celebrating New Beginnings.
Elly and Nate chose Vesperman Farms for their wedding ceremony and reception. A beautiful venue and very supportive staff.
Here is what Elly shared on Wedding Wire:
Sarah with Koru Ceremonies was an excellent officiant. The process that Koru uses to build a unique ceremony is well worth the money. Sarah was quick to respond to any questions we had and helped us stay organized every step of the way. We would highly recommend Koru Ceremonies to anyone who is looking for an officiant who will go the extra mile.
Congratulations Jason and Vivienne! Wishing you all the best on your journey ahead as husband and wife. It was an honor to officate your wedding.
Check out this link with more photos by Booth Photographics. I couldn't have described this wedding day and this stunning couple any better than this:
Vivienne and Jason's day was one we'd been waiting for all year! From a work perspective, we knew we'd have the pleasure of working with one of our favorite planners, Cherry Blossom Events, and one of the best videographers around, Vaughter Weddings, and my floral darlings, Daffodil Parker.
I knew we'd get to sleep in, drink coffee on our deck, and then go work with our dream team of vendors and I was so thrilled! But more than that, I was drawn in by the amazing, nuanced love I saw in Vivienne and Jason and I completely melted to see them so deeply happy.
In our first meeting, Vivienne claimed in her hysterically direct way "Planning a wedding is expensive! I'd rather spend that money on Chanel handbags!" I laughed then realized she meant it...then laughed even more. I loved Vivienne and her insightful commentary from the moment I met her. But what I loved more was what she said next: "but Jason is so important to me and I want him to be surrounded by his family." She knew how to love Jason in a way that meant adjusting her priorities to give something special to him.
And Jason, a talented Dentist and quiet, introspective guy, knew how to be the stable, attentive support for Vivienne during times of intense pressure. It was really amazing to see how they chose love and gave love to each other.
Vivienne and Jason, thank you for including us on such a special day. I laughed, cried and cried again. Thanks for loving each other with your daily choices-it's so inspiring and beautiful! Enjoy a few of our favorite photos from your day! More coming soon!
Thanks to my dream team:
Event planning and design: Cherry Blossom Events | Videography: Vaughter Weddings | Florals: Daffodil Parker | Venue and Catering: The Madison Club
Couples who laugh together last together.
Humor is a powerful repair technique. It can lower the tension of an argument, reduce the division between you and your partner, and remind you that you’re human.
A well-timed inside joke can shift the focus away from your fixed position and toward your shared we-ness.
Remember that repair attempts are the secret weapon of emotionally intelligent couples. Inside jokes are the most secret because they're your secret.
Action of the day: Watch this clip of Dr. Gottman explaining how to create more shared humor in your marriage.
I had the opportunity to do two baptisms in the same weekend. So much fun to share in the joy of these young families.
What a beautiful day for Sophie's baptism and her amazing family. It was an honor to be a part of this special day for Sophie, Mike and Laura.
Here is a very nice review Laura wrote for me on Wedding Wire. It was delightful to be a part of Sophie's baptism and I truly enjoyed working with their wonderful family.
Pat was wonderful! She was exceptionally responsive, really easy to work with and she tailored our daughter's baptism so that it was everything that we wanted it to be.
One of the very cool things that Rev. Sarah Harrison does with each of her couples is take a selfie after the ceremony. So much fun!!
Sarah sends her gratitude to Bill and Jensi for having her officiate their beautiful wedding ceremony at the Blackhawk Country Club in Madison, WI. It was such a lovely day in June.
Thank you to Joe and Katy for honoring me with a job that I love to do with all my heart! It was a pleasure of mine to be a part of such a magical day. They were married at Badger Farms LLC under a beautiful oak tree in Deerfield, WI. The owners of Badger Farms, Dave and Betsy, were delightful to work with and created a beautiful setting for Joe and Katy to celebrate their love. Congratulations, friends, Joe and Katy.
And here is the rave review that Katy wrote for Rev. Sarah on Wedding Wire:
Rev. Sarah was wonderful. I can't tell you how many people complimented us on how personal our ceremony was. She infused the ceremony with intimate details of our lives and love story and it really felt like a dear friend officiated our wedding. She was attentive and supportive throughout the planning process, but even more importantly she was such a calming force on the day of our wedding. I can't imagine a more perfect person to have officiated our ceremony.
Thank you, April and Matt for writing this wonderful review for me on Wedding Wire. It was so enjoyable to work with both of you and share your amazing (and funny) love story during your ceremony. Wishing you all the best in the years ahead as husband and wife.
Pat was amazing to work with for many reasons. She is a sweet person, well spoken and makes you feel at ease. She was flexible with our crazy work schedules and willing to meet us and talk with us whenever we needed. Pat helped make our ceremony truly and utterly us. She told our love story and made the ceremony more meaningful than I could have imagined. Many of my relatives and friends came up to me and told me how beautiful and eloquent the ceremony was because of her. They also loved the fact that we kept it short and sweet, about twenty minutes total. I would recommend Pat to anyone in need of an officiant.
I happened to just see this on YouTube recently but still wanted to share this wedding I officiated a year ago. Sara and Kenny were such a sweet couple and a delight to work with leading up to their wedding day at The Madison Club.
At Koru Ceremony we believe not only in supporting couples on their wedding day, but also in their marriage that follows. I love the advice and information by Dr. John Gottman, who is a marriage researcher at the University of Washington. A book I highly recommend to anyone in a relationship is The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by Dr. Gottman. In addition, The Gottman Institute also has these weekly emails called The Marriage Minute that I enjoy reading and sharing with couples.
The six-second kiss
Dr. John Gottman recommends that couples share a kiss each day that lasts at least six seconds.
Long enough to feel romantic, a six-second kiss shared in daily moments of transition (going to or from work) will strengthen your marriage.
It releases oxytocin, dopamine, epinephrine, and norepinephrine. It generates a cascade of love chemicals that reduce stress hormones, lower your blood pressure, and send oxygenated blood to your brain.
Count out loud.
That's a kiss with potential.
Action of the day: Share a six-second kiss with your partner.
I was delighted to be asked to be a vendor at the brand new wedding venue, The Fields Reserve in Stoughton, WI. (http://www.fieldsreserve.com) The owners are doing an amazing job of creating a premier barn venue for ceremonies and receptions (heat and air conditioning, bathrooms, and bridal suites included!) Be sure to check out this outstanding new location for your wedding.
Welcome to our blog. As an officiant and wedding coordinator I delight in assisting couples celebrate one of the best and most memorable days of their life. I hope you find this blog to be a source of inspiration and joy.